Nice does not always mean weak

 A long time ago I read somewhere that when you're looking for help, you drastically increase your chances of receiving said help if you explicitly mention that you're looking for help instead of beating around the bush. Meaning you need to say, "Hey, I'm facing a bit of an issue with this, and would really like your help with it." There's some psychology behind it, which i've now forgotten, but if you think about it, it doesn't really even matter.

Because if you're someone who prefers being straightforward with people, telling them you're looking for help will be the easier thing to do than doing it the opposite way, which is being circular with the whole thing. 

Blogging this mostly to remember that i need to be doing this more. I need to have more long conversations in general. Used to do that so much back in college. I feel like that was so my thing. I do like less than one-fourth of all that talking now. Why does that happen? Why does a person start talking a lot less than they used to? Lol i sound like a Murakami character. Actually, a murakami character would abruptly stop talking one fine day, so this isn't that exactly, but kinda there. 

Have also not re-read a Murakami in ages. Actually, haven't read any of his latest books either. Work is taking up so much of my time. That and also my reading preferences have changed so much in the past 4-5 years. Since the lockdown, actually.  

But i am re-watching Schitt's Creek presently. Because Catherine O'Hara passed away earlier this week. And it was really sad to read about it. This is the only show mom and I binged watched together. I cannot forget how hard she laughed at all of Moira's and Johnny's and Roland's scenes. Because it is a damn good comedy. It's so hard to do comedy that is clean and wholesome and rooted in good values. A show that's so inclusive and doesn't punch down or make fun at the expense of someone's identity or beliefs or values. This show sits squarely at that intersection. 

Eugene Levy's eyes and eyebrows deserve an Oscar nomination of their own. Alexis is definitely ADHD. And Dan levy is a genius. 

Anyway, the title of the blog post is basically a dialogue from one of the episodes. The vet guy says it to alexis when she goes to his office. So true. And something so many people get wrong.